The Tricky Thing About Sponsers

September 14, 2015 Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Google+ 12 Step Recovery

I’ll be honest, finding a sponsor is something I found hard.  It’s not that I thought I didn’t need help or that I was able to work a program without one.  It’s that I had a hard time connecting with other addicts early in my recovery.  It seemed like I just couldn’t find the words, and going up to random strangers felt  dangerous.  I don’t mean dangerous in the sense they would cause me harm, but dangerous in the sense that I had to give up control and admit to someone else that I needed them to stay sober.

I didn’t realize this at the time, but one of the reasons finding a sponsor is so important is that it’s a statement that you can’t do it alone, that you really are powerless and that you are willing to do whatever you have to do to put yourself out there and ask another human being for help.  It’s an act of humility that I just wasn’t ready to confront.

Ultimately, it was this barrier that prevented me from engaging completely in 12 step programs, which eventually led to relapse. I think that if I had been willing to take this step at the time, my story might have been a little different.

My advice, if you are attending meetings find a sponsor.  Look around the rooms for someone who has been there a while and walk up to them and say “I need a sponsor”.  Keep putting yourself out there until you find one.